The End of Love

A Sociology of Negative Relations

Eva Illouz (Autor)

Buch | Softcover

320 Seiten

2021
Polity Press (Verlag)
978-1-5095-5025-8 (ISBN)

Infos

Western culture has endlessly represented the ways in which love miraculously erupts in people’s lives, the mythical moment in which one knows someone is destined for us, the feverish waiting for a phone call or an email, the thrill that runs down our spine at the mere thought of him or her. Yet, a culture that has so much to say about love is virtually silent on the no less mysterious moments when we avoid falling in love, where we fall out of love, when the one who kept us awake at night now leaves us indifferent, or when we hurry away from those who excited us a few months or even a few hours before.

In The End of Love, Eva Illouz documents the multifarious ways in which relationships end. She argues that if modern love was once marked by the freedom to enter sexual and emotional bonds according to one’s will and choice, contemporary love has now become characterized by practices of non-choice, the freedom to withdraw from relationships. Illouz dubs this process by which relationships fade, evaporate, dissolve, and break down “unloving.” While sociology has classically focused on the formation of social bonds, The End of Love makes a powerful case for studying why and how social bonds collapse and dissolve.

Particularly striking is the role that capitalism plays in practices of non-choice and “unloving.” The unmaking of social bonds, she argues, is connected to contemporary capitalism which is characterized by practices of non-commitment and non-choice, practices that enable the quick withdrawal from a transaction and the quick realignment of prices and the breaking of loyalties. Unloving and non-choice have in turn a profound impact on society and economics as they explain why people may be having fewer children, increasingly living alone, and having less sex.

The End of Love presents a profound and original analysis of the effects of capitalism and consumer culture on personal relationships and of what the dissolution of personal relationships means for capitalism.

Autor

Eva Illouz is Directrice d’Etudes at the EHESS in Paris and Rose Isaac Chair of Sociology at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem.

Inhalt

Acknowledgments 1. Unloving: Introduction to a Sociology of Negative Choice

Love as Freedom

The Malaise with a Critique of Freedom

Choice

Negative Choice

Notes

2. Pre-Modern Courtship, Social Certainty, and the Rise of Negative Relationships

Courtship as a Sociological Structure

Certainty as a Sociological Structure

Sexual Freedom as Consumer Freedom

A New Social and Sexual Grammar

Notes

3. Confusing Sex

Casual Sexuality and Its Elusive Effects

Casualness and Uncertainty

Uncertainty and Negative Sociality

Notes

4. Scopic Capitalism and the Rise of Ontological Uncertainty

The Value of the Body

Producing Symbolic and Economic Value

Evaluation

Sexual Devaluation

Shifting the Reference Point of Evaluation

The Confused Status of the Subject

Notes

5. A Freedom with Many Limits

Consent to What?

Muddled Wills

Volatility as an Emotional Condition

Exiting without a Voice

Trust and Uncertainty

Notes

6. Divorce as a Negative Relationship

The End of Love

Divorce and Women’s Position in the Emotional Field

The Narrative Structure of Departing

Sexuality: The Great Separation

Consumer Objects: From Transitional to Exiting Objects

Autonomy and Attachment: The Difficult Couple

Emotional Ontologies and Non-Binding Emotional Contracts

Emotional Competence and Women’s Position in the Relational Process

Notes

Conclusion: Negative Relations and the Butterfly Politics of Sex

Notes

Bibliography

Index

Produkt-Details

• Erscheinungsdatum: 07.09.2021
• Verlagsort: Oxford
• Sprache: englisch
• Maße: 152 x 229 mm
• Gewicht: 499 g
• Themenwelt: Sozialwissenschaften ► Soziologie
• ISBN-10: 1-5095-5025-9 / 1509550259
• ISBN-13: 978-1-5095-5025-8 / 9781509550258
• Zustand: Neuware