The Pastoral Counseling Treatment Planner (eBook)

James R. Kok, Arthur E. Jongsma (Autoren)

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2024 | 2. Auflage
308 Seiten
Wiley (Verlag)
978-1-394-28166-4 (ISBN)

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Over 1,300 well-crafted treatment goals, objectives and interventions for many of life's thorniest problems

For pastoral counselors and clergy people seeking effective therapeutic techniques, The Pastoral Counseling Treatment Planner is a lifesaver. And for secular therapists integrating elements of their clients' spirituality into treatment process, this book can guide the way. Patterned after the bestselling The Adult Psychotherapy Treatment Planner, this resource draws on a variety of Western religious belief systems and offers step-by-step guidelines on counseling clients and parishioners through life's dilemmas. This sourcebook is organized around 31 common problems, including marital conflict, grief, chronic illness, and challenges of faith. For each problem, behavioral definitions and potential counseling goals are provided, along with dozens of suggested interventions-many of which draw upon the client's faith as a source of healing.

This is a hands-on resource that you can use directly in your counseling. The pages afford plenty of space to record customized counseling goals, objectives, and interventions for your parishioners. A faith-forward entry in the trusted Treatment Planner series, The Pastoral Counseling Treatment Planner simplifies the planning process, so you can focus on helping those who need you.

• Access a sample counseling plan appropriate for both experienced counselors and novices
• Quickly develop individualized plans by selecting from over 1,300 descriptive statements.
• Addresses emotional problems as well as life stage issues, family conflicts, marital issues, and challenges to faith
• A resource for religious leaders who provide counseling to parishioners and secular counselors who incorporate spirituality into their practice.

A resource for religious leaders who provide counseling to parishioners and secular counselors who incorporate spirituality in their practice make this sentence the final bullet point!

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ADULT CHILD DISAPPOINTMENT

BEHAVIORAL DEFINITIONS

1. Heartache that one’s offspring lives contrary to the spiritual/religious values and lifestyle taught in the home during the years of rearing.
2. Feelings of failure stemming from observing and realizing the agnostic or atheistic convictions of one’s offspring that cause the adult child to reject the teachings and rituals of the church.
3. Grief that the hopes and dreams of traditional courtship, marriage, and grandchildren will not be realized as an adult child reveals an LGBTQ+ orientation.
4. Grief that hoped-for grandchildren will not come to be as adult children announce a plan for a childless marriage.
5. Disappointment and anger as an adult child’s addiction to alcohol and/or drugs emerges.
6. Discouragement about the adult child’s way of life that is widely divergent from the work ethic, thriftiness, and achievement orientation of the home in which he/she/they were raised.
7. Shame, anger, and disappointment over an adult child’s legal, social, and/or vocational irresponsibility.

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LONG-TERM GOALS

1. Achieve an attitude of tender, loving concern toward the divergent son or daughter in spite of the disappointment, dismay, or frustration about his/her/their life.
2. Show love and kindness fully and fervently to the adult child, as one would if in total agreement and warm compatibility.
3. Develop a relationship that facilitates learning to understand the adult child in his/her/their alternative way of life.
4. Erase the strong agenda to change the adult child and move toward acceptance even while fundamentally holding a differing outlook on life and grieving the death of your dreams.
5. Maneuver with great care to intrude, interrupt, and intervene where the divergent life is clearly self-destructive or illegal.
6. Entrust the adult child to the care and keeping of a loving God and eliminate all needling, nagging, or nudging for change.

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SHORT-TERM OBJECTIVES

THERAPEUTIC INTERVENTIONS

1. Work cooperatively with the counselor toward agreed-upon therapeutic goals while being as open and honest as comfort and trust allow. (1, 2)

1. Establish rapport with the client toward building a strong therapeutic alliance; convey caring, support, warmth, and empathy; provide nonjudgmental support and develop a level of trust with the client toward feeling safe to discuss anger control issues and their impact on the client’s life. 2. Strengthen powerful relationship factors within the therapy process and foster the therapy alliance through paying special attention to these empirically supported factors: work collaboratively with the client in the treatment process; reach agreement on the goals and expectations of therapy; demonstrate consistent empathy toward the client’s feelings and struggles; verbalize positive regard toward and affirmation of the client; and collect and deliver client feedback as to the client’s perception of his/her/their progress in therapy (see Psychotherapy Relationships That Work: Vol. 1 by Norcross & Lambert and Vol. 2 by Norcross & Wampold).

2. Present in detail the scenario causing the grief, heartache, and fear. (3)

3. Explore the cause for the parents’ distress being felt over the adult child.

3. Express freely the unhappy feelings arising from seeing the adult child living differently from all you had hoped for and believe in. (4)

4. Maintain an ideologically neutral but warmly compassionate stance while facilitating a cathartic emotional event centered on the family’s feelings of disappointment.

4. Verbalize acceptance of the need to keep channels of communication open with the adult child who is seen as rebellious or divergent. (5)

5. Strive to guide the family toward finding a way to keep alive or restore meaningful communication and connectedness with the one regarded as wayward, rather than shunning or condemning him/her/them.

5. Terminate statements of failure and self-blame, placing responsibility for behavior choices on the adult child. (6)

6. Convince the parents that they must not assume responsibility for the lifestyle, values orientation, or addiction of their adult children.

6. Verbalize acceptance of the adult child while clearly not agreeing with the disturbing life of the child you raised in a far different way. (7)

7. Direct the parents toward taking a position of acceptance of the adult child that does not imply agreement with his/her/their way of life.

7. Explore strategies for strengthening or diluting a relationship with the child whose lifestyle is now sharply divergent from your idea of appropriateness, right and wrong, and godly living. (8)

8. Assist the parents in arriving at a decision as to the degree of intensity of the relationship they can maintain with the adult child whose lifestyle is so different.

8. Seek God’s will as to whether to separate from, or find a way to embrace, the one so far departed from traditional expectations, hopes, and values. (9, 10)

9. Teach the power of God’s patient love (e.g., Luke 15:11–32; Neh. 9:17–20) as the example for our love for others even if their lives are not in agreement with our values. 10. Challenge the parents to endeavor mightily to break down the psychological and emotional barriers preventing them from companionship, love, and hospitality with the adult child in question.

9. Articulate and mourn the loss of dreams and hopes caused by the new and different path followed by the loved one. (11, 12)

11. Explore the dimension of grief at the core of the parents’ unhappiness and assist them through shock, anger, and depression to eventual acceptance, through prayer and willful effort, of the uncontrollable reality. 12. Label the dissonance and upset as due partially to grief; like death, adult child disappointment must be mourned before acceptance of the new reality becomes possible.

10. Earnestly seek from God the wisdom and grace to walk alongside your adult child, giving support, encouragement, and hospitality even while in fundamental disagreement or still in discomfort. (13)

13. Understand, support, and encourage the parents while they struggle to balance loving acceptance with basic disagreement with the adult child’s lifestyle and/or religious choices.

11. Humbly solicit from God those spiritual gifts needed to be a true and faithful friend to your adult child regardless of the divergence, as long as no line is crossed into amoral behavior or other unrepentant actions damaging of others. (14)

14. Complement the guidance given with prayer for all that is needed to accomplish this profound move from condemnation, fear, and anger to tender, loving care while continuing to hold the values treasured.

12. Engage in social and recreational activities with the adult child as a means of keeping the relationship strong and lines of communication and indirect influence open. (15, 16)

15. Encourage the parents to take the initiative to engage in regularly scheduled social and recreational activities with the adult child as a way of demonstrating love, maintaining communication, and providing an indirect positive influence. 16. Assist the parents in identifying activities they could plan and initiate that would be supportive of the relationship with the adult...

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 8.10.2024
• Reihe/Serie: PracticePlanners
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie
• Themenwelt: Sozialwissenschaften ► Pädagogik ► Sozialpädagogik
• Schlagworte: clergy counseling • counseling treatment planner • Faith-based counseling • Pastoral counseling • pastoral counseling book • pastoral counseling guide • pastoral counseling interventions • pastoral counseling planner • Psychotherapy treatment planner
• ISBN-10: 1-394-28166-8 / 1394281668
• ISBN-13: 978-1-394-28166-4 / 9781394281664