F Words (eBook)

Furthering Fathering Feeling Fatherless

Grequan Carter (Autor)

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2024 | 1. Auflage
290 Seiten
Bookbaby (Verlag)
979-8-218-38549-1 (ISBN)

Infos

Dive into the profound pages of 'The F Words,' a unique blend of memoir, poetry, self-improvement workbook, and facilitation manual that guides readers toward personal growth, community engagement, and cosmic harmony. This multidimensional read is segmented into four enriching categories: Philosophical Concepts, Personal Journal Entries, Purity of Poetry, and Practical Self & Community Inquiries, making it an essential resource for enthusiasts of Anthropology, Sociology, and African American Studies. With a vibrant voice, 'The F Words' embarks on a journey through the landscapes of Social Justice, Paradigm Shifts, African American Culture, Fatherhood, Intimate Relationships, and the pursuit of personal goals, alongside exploring the connection with nature and the Law of Attraction. It's more than a book; it's a comprehensive toolkit for adopting effective thought-feeling-action systems that promise to revolutionize your life. Additionally, it offers transformative dialogue prompts designed to build rapport and facilitate empowering discussions within groups. At its core, 'The F Words' is a heartfelt monologue to the author's offspring, sharing a life blueprint intended not just for them but for the world to witness. It invites you to question and discover your internal self, your role within the community, and your connection to the universe at large. Prepare to be inspired, to learn, and to transform with 'The F Words' as your guide.

Grequan Carter, A Published Author, Founder/Coach of ROC Vipers AAU Basketball Organization, Life/Executive Coach for Eye of Nature Coaching, and RECivation. Board President of Respite & Restoration at Lagom Landing, Project Coordinator for Partners in Restorative Initiatives, and Accountability Panel Role for Exploring Racism Together. He shares expertise in Life Coaching and Group Facilitation, facilitating Social Emotional Learning, Mindfulness, Meditation, Sound Healing, Basketball, Poetry, Abstract Art, and Cognitive Behavior Interventions. Grequan Carter also facilitates a variety of Meditative and Team Bonding Retreats, is a Professional Nature Photographer, Motivational Speaker, and Marketer. He embodies living in abundance through presence, curiosity, positive energy, and play. Philosophically he utilizes the Arts as a universal language to build community and advocate. Most importantly, Grequan Carter is a proud father!

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A Poetic Philosophical Practical Guide to Self Improvement, Community Impact, and Cosmic Alignment. The F Words is a combination of a memoir, book of poetry, a self transformation workbook, and a facilitator's guide to empowering others. The 4 categories within this book Philosophical Concepts, Personal Journal Entries, Purity of Poetry, and Practical Self & Community Inquiries. This is a great reference for Anthropology, Sociology, and African American Studies. In unique tones, The F Words explores Social Justice, Paradigm Shifts, African American Culture, Fatherhood, Intimate Relationships, Pursuing Goals, Connecting with Nature, Law of Attraction and so much more. Fathers, Parents, CouplesCommunity Leaders, Social Justice ActivistsTeachers, Coaches, FacilitatorsTherapists, Counselors, Social Workers,Nature Lovers, MeditatorsThis is a One-Stop Shop for learning effective thought-feeling-action systems that will change your life, and provide transformative rapport building dialogue prompts for groups. All to inspire YOU to be inquisitive about your internal Self, your Self in Community, and Self connected to all things!Most importantly, the F Words is a Monologue to my Offspring, revealing my Blueprint of Life, for the World to Experience. Peace and Prosperity,-Gre

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In-T.R.O.

 

 

 

The In-T.R.O. stands for Inner Travel Reading Open-mindedly. This In-TRO sets the tone for you to become totally intimate with me as a writer, which is my ultimate form of expression. Writing is MY GIFT, so I am gifting you, ME! As the previous page says, this book is dedicated to my sons and potential future offspring, so throughout this book, I will be writing in a tone that directly speaks to them, as my offspring.

For those of you who are witnessing this monologue to my offspring, I challenge you to take an inner dive and read this book open-mindedly. Put yourself in the shoes of an offspring, and receive, reflect, and act (Double RA)! There is a potentiality this book can be triggering for those who have complexities with their fathers, especially when I utilize statements like “Your Father”, and “My Child”. Just remember, I am speaking directly to MY offspring, and not you. At the same time, this book is DIRECTLY FOR YOU! It is meant for you to explore MANY aspects of yourself and challenges you to go even deeper. Also, I must say, I do not agree to take on the responsibility as your father, or volunteer to take on the responsibility to be the father of your offspring, lol! Now let’s begin!

An Embracing Shift

 

I’m super excited you are here! This is not only an individual journey, but a collective journey you share with millions of others reading this book. Since publishing “Journey of a Maturation Rollercoaster” in 2018, I’ve learned, and most importantly, embodied a lot of new philosophies, perspectives, and behaviors. So much we are going to have to readdress/explore some of the concepts I previously spoke of in “Journey of a Maturation Rollercoaster”. At first, I was going to write concepts I previously believed…, insinuating I was wrong before and right now, but that’s NEVER how it is. There is no right or wrong way of Being! There is just BEING! And the way you decide to be, whether you’re conscious of it or not, determines how your reality will play out. So that reality, that state of mind, those behaviors I previously wrote and embodied were totally REAL, and right where I needed to be at those moments in time in order for me to thrive under those circumstances, to get to this beautiful place of bliss! Plus, that past experience no longer exists and is just a figment of my imagination, but we shall talk about that later on.

For example, I previously embodied the idea that I am a product of my mind. During that time of “product of my mind” identification, the environment I lived in, and community I socialized with, was not something I felt truly connected to. I also didn’t see, or get exposure to people like me. Besides Fabolous, J. Cole, and Kendrick Lamar, I didn’t idolize anyone. I was inspired by lyrics, nothing in my community brought true inspiration. I totally disconnected from the idea of being a product of my environment. In order for me to cope/persevere with my external environment, unconsciously I was shaping my ideal environment/reality with thinking a certain way that was beyond what was; hence my strong embodiment of being a product of my mind.

 

As I grew, post 2018, I engulfed my understanding of being a product of mind-body-soul. Now 2021, I’m fully aligned with being an exquisite extension of Divine Source. With my final edits in 2023, being an “exquisite extension of Divine Source” is now complimented with being Pure Consciousness, an extension of a Divine Source, connected to ALL Things, including influences of society. You will learn to see, humans are constantly changing physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I FULLY embrace where I was, where I am, and where I’m headed. I wish YOU the same my child!

 

Reader's Guide

 

This is a guide for you to learn from and use as a resource as you explore your journey of life. You’re going to be engulfed in a society that will EAT YOU ALIVE (which is figurative language).It insinuates you being consumed, manipulated, influenced by societal norms, which is how to think, how to behave, how to dress, what to buy, what education you need, what to eat, what type of relationships you should have, what you have access to based on your economic status, stereotypes of where you’ll end up, and what you can accomplish as an African American. Long story short, you can create your OWN reality and not let others dictate it!

At the same time, I’m going to share where I was mentally and emotionally at certain points in life. You’ll even get to witness actual journal entries I wrote. Depending on your level of recognition of penmanship, will determine if you understand what was written. I’ll type it out as well. I won’t make any edits to the scanned journal entries. There will be a lot of spelling, crossing out and some grammatical errors. But hey, it is what it is, I’m an open book (figurative language).

 

Tell Me More, Gre!

 

You must be curious how this all ties into being fatherless, and fatherhood in general. Well, first, my father isn’t dead. He exists in this world surviving the best way he knows. He has a few sons and a daughter and multiple baby mothers. I’m not sure exactly where he lives, but most of his settlement took place on the East Coast. Only places I know of are Far Rockaway, Bronx, Brooklyn, Connecticut, Atlanta. Let’s just say he’s been a salesperson his whole life. He has a great smile, has the ability to connect with people and extract what he needs, he was athletic at some point in time, he gives people the benefit of the doubt, he’s not afraid to defend his family, not afraid of taking risks, and has faith he will always be ok. Regardless of those good characteristics, I wasn’t blessed with the opportunity to witness those characteristics on a consistent basis. I don’t know all of the reasons behind why he decided not to be present in my life on a consistent basis. All I can hypothesize is:

He became a father at 19. So, you could say he wasn’t mature enough to take on the responsibility. But that isn’t necessarily true (AT FIRST because he was most consistent and present in my life from birth to 3 years old. BUT, because his mother left him and his brother at the age of 16, and their father died 3 years prior to their mother leaving, and having to figure out where he could secure his basic needs, and doing so through selling drugs, and DOING drugs as a potential coping mechanism, could have led to him becoming a HIGHLY dependable weed smoker, which potentially could have hindered his psychological development; causing him not to even fathom commitment or responsibility to a family, based on his inability to comfortably support himself, the absence of both a positive mother and father throughout life, and altered brain development because of drugs. He could be running from all of those repressed and unaddressed emotions.

Or at my age of 3, living in Prospect Park, Brooklyn New York, he, and my mother had a bad fall out causing them to break up, forever. So maybe he didn’t come around as often because he felt ashamed, embarrassed, sad, upset, or guilty with himself because he put his hands on my mother in an aggressive way, jeopardizing the “harmony” of our family; or my mother stripped him the opportunity of seeing me on the consistent basis because of the incident and his immaturity, or both. But that still doesn’t answer down the line why he decided to stand me up over 50 times and/or just not take the initiative to consistently show up for me as a father.

I spent years hypothesizing, but hypothesizing did not provide the DEEP awareness/acceptance/forgiveness/ recovery. I needed to move forward psychologically and emotionally, and therefore spiritually. If you read my first book “Journey of a Maturation Rollercoaster”, you’ll witness my contemplations and pursuits towards healing. As I reflected, those contemplations and pursuits were so critical for my advancement in consciousness, and through those reflections, I accepted those pursuits weren’t the end goal. The acceptance component was challenging. I said to myself, “I wrote it down and shared it to the world, I played my part”. My process of writing is a deep reflection, so facing the feelings associated with my father’s behavior, was not waters I wanted to tread for long; which is a sense of impatience, so I convinced myself my acts of reflection and writing was deep enough for DEEP acceptance, forgiveness, and recovery.

So the question came up, what am I actually looking for? Simply in that question is AWARENESS. Awareness that there is something that is absent, causing resentment, sadness, anger, envy to arise when I am watching a movie like “Pursuit of Happyness”, “John Q”, and any other movie where the Dad is present in the son's life in a positive way. Witnessing it in person has a more subtle effect; but it’s still present. Another question arose, will those feelings ever totally extinguish? If so, what does it look like, and what does it feel like to be in that frequency? My journey continues…

I previously referenced the word DEEP, as a descriptively intense way of attainment of acceptance, forgiveness, and recovery. Visually, intellectually, and emotionally speaking, DEEP can be conceptualized vastly. So, we are going to create another acronym as a mantra for each phase of healing.

DEEP now stands for:

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Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 4.4.2024
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Lebenshilfe / Lebensführung
• ISBN-13: 979-8-218-38549-1 / 9798218385491