Wisdom of Morrie (eBook)

Morrie Schwartz, Rob Schwartz (Autoren)

eBook Download: EPUB

2023 | 1. Auflage
100 Seiten
Blackstone Publishing (Verlag)
979-8-200-81347-6 (ISBN)

Infos

'Beautiful...Those lucky enough to read this book will be inspired.'-Deepak Chopra

From the eponymous subject of the beloved classic Tuesdays with Morrie comes an insightful, poignant masterpiece on staying vibrant and connected for life.  

Who am I really? What have I done? What is important and meaningful to me? What difference does it make that I have lived? What does it mean to be truly human, and where am I on that scale?   

Morrie Schwartz, the beloved subject of the classic, multimillion-copy number one bestseller Tuesdays with Morrie, explores these questions and many more in this profound, poetic, and poignant masterpiece of living and aging joyfully and creatively. Later life can be filled with many challenges, but it can also be one of the most beautiful and rewarding passages in anyone's lifetime. Morrie draws on his experiences as a social psychologist, teacher, father, friend, and sage to offer us a road map to navigate our futures. 

A great companion to Tuesdays with Morrie or the perfect introduction to Morrie's thoughtful philosophies, The Wisdom of Morrie is filled with empathic insights, stories, anecdotes, and advice, told in Morrie's reassuring, calm, and timeless voice. Let The Wisdom of Morrie be your guide in exploring deep questions of how to live and how to love.

Morrie Schwartz became an internationally renowned figure posthumously after Mitch Albom's Tuesdays with Morrie stayed number one on the New York Times nonfiction bestseller list for five years. Before that he was a beloved professor of sociology at Brandeis University and cherished therapist at Greenhouse in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Morrie wrote on a wide variety of topics. He dedicated his life to helping people understand their relationships to society, other people, and themselves. His groundbreaking 1954 book (with Alfred Stanton) The Mental Hospital made him a superstar in the field of sociology, earning Morrie a full professorship as his first university position. Morrie was dedicated to social justice and valuing every human being.

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"e;Beautiful...Those lucky enough to read this book will be inspired."e;-Deepak ChopraFrom the eponymous subject of the beloved classic Tuesdays with Morrie comes an insightful, poignant masterpiece on staying vibrant and connected for life. Who am I really? What have I done? What is important and meaningful to me? What difference does it make that I have lived? What does it mean to be truly human, and where am I on that scale? Morrie Schwartz, the beloved subject of the classic, multimillion-copy number one bestseller Tuesdays with Morrie, explores these questions and many more in this profound, poetic, and poignant masterpiece of living and aging joyfully and creatively. Later life can be filled with many challenges, but it can also be one of the most beautiful and rewarding passages in anyone's lifetime. Morrie draws on his experiences as a social psychologist, teacher, father, friend, and sage to offer us a road map to navigate our futures. A great companion to Tuesdays with Morrie or the perfect introduction to Morrie's thoughtful philosophies, The Wisdom of Morrie is filled with empathic insights, stories, anecdotes, and advice, told in Morrie's reassuring, calm, and timeless voice. Let The Wisdom of Morrie be your guide in exploring deep questions of how to live and how to love.

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The Emotional Balancing Act

The crucial task of age is balance, a veritable tightrope of balance; keeping just well enough, just brave enough, just gay and interested and starkly honest enough to remain a sentient human being.

—The Measure of My Days
by Florida Scott-Maxwell

When I was a sophomore in high school, my French teacher assigned an essay on the question “Quel est le plus bel âge de la vie?” (What is the most beautiful time of life?) The answer came to me quickly: “Of course: when you are young.” Later, in my twenties, I came across a book called Life Begins at Forty. I found the title both strange and untrue. I couldn’t understand why anyone believed life began at forty when obviously, life was almost over by then. As I look back on these deeply ageist attitudes, I marvel at how I ever came to hold them so firmly and uncritically. I see how unaware I was of the wonderful possibilities of later life, and how much I feared and scorned older age. Today, it’s quite clear to me that the best age of my life is the age I am living, creating, and experiencing now.

Much of what we always took for granted physically we can no longer assume. Much is harder to do, and the older we get, the harder it is. It’s harder to see and hear, harder to walk, breathe, get moving, and keep moving. It’s harder to stay awake, to concentrate, to keep warm, to remember what I just did, and to recognize people and know who they are. It’s more difficult to fall asleep at night, to sleep deeply, and to get up in the morning. It’s not as easy to find my way through once-familiar streets, to deal with complexity, and to stay alert. And it’s more trying to put up with nonsense and destructiveness.

By contrast, an Israeli woman of seventy tells me:

“I find that everything is becoming ‘lighter,’ less burdensome, less fateful, as if all the ‘vital’ decisions—again, for better or for worse—have been taken a long time ago and are a matter of the past.

“I also find that with increasing age I experience greater freedom from social pressures, especially with regard to my status as a woman who never married or bore children. To me, one of the satisfactions, if not joys, of retirement is that I no longer have to worry about making—or even ‘having’—a career. I feel that what I do now is no longer, in any way, part of a ‘career.’ Having a career in that sense, I feel, is something that, for better or for worse, I have put behind me. What I do now, if I may put it that way, I see as being ‘extraterritorial’ to any kind of career. I feel that now I no longer have to worry about having myself defined by others according to how I fulfill assignments or demands of any kind. Or about how I am being ‘evaluated’ or ‘assessed’ by them in any way. Now it is myself, and no one else, who calls the shots.”

Like this woman, I find that some things are also easier for me. It’s easier to become impatient, annoyed, frustrated, and critical. It’s easier to get tired and drop things. Yet it’s also easier to recognize these negative responses and stop some of them. It’s easier to be more open-minded, more humane, more understanding, and more empathic. Some things are also clearer: I see myself and my relationships more clearly, and I feel more certain about human nature and the human condition. For example, human beings, with few exceptions, are both good and bad, destructive and constructive, to self and others. They will behave on one or the other side of this duality depending on how they are treated and the social situations they are in.

I’ve experienced the emotional ups and downs, the contradictions and contrasts, described below. I believe that many of us have had the same experiences.

Enthusiasm and Despair

I’ve experienced waves of hopelessness and despair, alternating with determination and enthusiasm for living. There have been times—especially when I’ve been severely ill—when I just wanted to give up and throw in the towel. In those dark moments, I felt that the best days are gone, so why continue at a lesser level of effectiveness? When I see some of the horrendous things that have happened to older people I know, like painful cancer and Alzheimer’s, I keep trying to reassure myself that it won’t happen to me. After each period of feeling defeated and drained, I return to fight again, to keep on being who I am, who I must be, and to strive for what I might become. Then I become enthusiastic about what I am doing at the moment and what I have yet to do tomorrow, about my current relationships and others that are developing, and about my inner growth and insight.

Security and Insecurity

I’ve experienced increased insecurity because of my increased vulnerability to illness. Uncertainty, over my current illness as well as possible new ones, looms large on my horizon. As time goes on, I will undoubtedly experience some decrease in mental acuity. How long can I continue to be free and independent and pursue projects of my own choosing? How long will I live? In what state? How will my life end? As I think about and experience the reality of these unknowns, I feel anxious and insecure. I therefore have to expect the unpredictable and be ready to meet it in whatever form it takes. But on the other side, I experience myself as being more secure and more integrated. I feel more whole, clearer in my purposes, more certain of my values and the ends that I direct my life toward. I have a wider and broader perspective on life. I feel stronger and surer about what is important and what isn’t. My security also comes from feeling stronger about how I cope with adversity. Also, I have established certain routine activities. For example, I see friends and family regularly, exercise routinely, keep my sense of humor engaged, read, write, and teach, as well as meditate regularly and meet with a group that has similar interests to mine. These routines sustain me and provide a degree of equanimity and inner peace much of the time.

Feeling My Age and Feeling Ageless

I recognize, with a slight shock, that I really don’t believe how old I am, and when I do believe it I want to forget it. There are times when I feel every bit of my age: when a strange fatigue hits me, stays a while, and goes away mysteriously; the day after a bad night’s sleep, when I try to dance vigorously and find I can keep going for only a few moments. I have to keep reminding myself that I am seventy-six years old. When I remember, I find it difficult to absorb that I have lived so many years. Sometimes, I feel ageless in spirit, as if time had not passed and my young self lingers in the hidden crevices of my being. I am vigorous, walk with a spring in my step, and am full of enthusiasm and energy. I’m often taken aback when someone reflects to me that I present myself to them with an old face, gray hair, and an aged body. To convince myself of my chronological age, I have to keep telling myself: Be realistic. Much of your life is gone. It’s almost over. How fast and fleeting the past feels! As I approach the end, I want more time—a lot more time. Yet I fear that there may never be enough time. Then I wonder what I should do with my remaining time.

Honesty and Self-Deception

My later years are a time for honesty, especially with myself. (If not now, when?) So I try to confront the truth of my existence, especially the illusions I have about myself and what is happening in and around me. But evading harsh truths about myself or others also has a certain appeal. It’s easier not to expose the hypocrisy and deception that prevail in society’s social, political, and interpersonal relations. My attempt to be honest with myself about myself is a constant struggle.

I must also resist the temptation to avoid looking at my dark side. I think and feel things I’d rather not admit, even to myself. For example, someone disagrees with me and I feel hostile toward him. Someone appears smug and self-satisfied, and I denigrate her to myself. I observe one day, while admiring a younger person’s skills, that I also envy him. When I examine my envy, I discover I envy him because he is healthier, more vigorous, stronger than I. Ultimately, I feel he has more time to live and that my envy is rooted in that difference. Someone I know dies. Mixed with the sadness is a feeling of gladness that it wasn’t me. Or I sometimes find I am indifferent to another person’s illness and pain, especially if I don’t like that person or if I fear that my own illness is recurring. Or, conversely, I resent another person’s good fortune. Or I find myself disliking someone who is my own age but better off physically or financially, or more successful socially. I feel guilt or shame for having such “bad” thoughts. And because of them, I begin to dislike or think less of myself. Then I remember that these are only thoughts, only feelings inside me that I don’t have to feel guilty about or act on, that we all have them. This darker aspect is apt to escape its cage and crash into our awareness from time to time, especially when things get more difficult and we feel that time is running out on us. One way I have been able to reduce the distressing effects of these unwanted thoughts and feelings is to be fully aware of them, expect them to occur from time to time, and see them as outcroppings of my own deprivations and dissatisfactions, which are inevitable as I grow older. By recognizing and admitting my dark side to myself rather than keeping it buried, I can better control...

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 18.4.2023
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Lebenshilfe / Lebensführung
• Themenwelt: Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie ► Allgemeine Psychologie
• Themenwelt: Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie ► Entwicklungspsychologie
• ISBN-13: 979-8-200-81347-6 / 9798200813476