Spiritual Path to a Healthy Relationship (eBook)
224 Seiten
Central Recovery Press, LLC (Verlag)
978-1-936290-77-2 (ISBN)
Husband and wife authors Steve and Angie McCord, a couple with more than twenty years in recovery each, show you what works for them. Drawing from lessons learned in their own relationship, the McCords provide wise counsel about what helps and what hurts a relationship.
lt;div>Steve McCord: Steve McCord is a licensed marriage and family therapist who has provided counseling to individuals, couples, and families since 1991. He has specialized in addiction medicine as well as family therapy. Steve is active in communities centered around creative expression, including poetry and wood carving, and is also an elder and leader in several men's communities.
Angie McCord: Angie McCord is a certified life coach specializing in personal and professional relationships. She is a retired Chief of Human Resources for the Los Angeles District Attorney's Office. Throughout her extensive career, she has been recognized for her expertise in the areas of training and employee development, employee relations, performance management, classification, and recruitment.
INTRODUCTION
PART I
WHAT IT WAS LIKE: FROM DESOLATION TO “HAPPILY EVER AFTER”
1. ANGIE’S STORY
Looking for love in all the wrong places until my real “Prince Charming” arrived
2. STEVE’S STORY
From hurting to helping to healing
3. REFLECTIONS FOR THE “TERMINALLY SINGLE”
Affirmations for identifying desired qualities in a mate
4. FROM SEEKING THE RIGHT PERSON TO BECOMING THE RIGHT PERSON From self-centeredness to centered selfness
5. RELATIONSHIP WISH LIST
Daring to dream: visioning qualities you want in a relationship
6. DO YOU WANT A LIFE PARTNER?
Daring to hope it is possible
7. OVERCOMING FEAR
Two wolves—which will you feed?
8. INFATUATION OR INTIMACY
A bird may love a fish, but where would they live? Reflections on areas of compatibility
9. MY MAGIC, MAGNIFYING MIND
What I like about you
10. CONFUSION OF NEEDS AND THE THREE CIRCLES OF SELF-AWARENESS Honestly facing and discussing “must haves” and “deal breakers”
11. THERE ARE NO RULES
Baby steps from self-reliance to partnership
12. SPIRITUAL, PROSPEROUS, AND FUN
Happy, joyous, and free—not glum
13. THE WHOLE PACKAGE
Acceptance and commitment
14. MORE ABOUT GOD’S WILL
Turning our will and lives over, together
PART II
REALITY BITES: LIVING TOGETHER = POURING MIRACLE GROW ON CHARACTER DEFECTS
1. RESTLESS, IRRITABLE, AND DISCONTENT
Recognizing and owning our own moods and negative tendencies
2. HOW GOOD CAN YOU STAND IT?
Navigating away from the trap of self-sabotage
3. HUMILITY
For better or for worse, but not for lunch?
4. THAR SHE BLOWS
Surviving conflict
5. SPACE VS. TOGETHERNESS
More about humility
6. STILL FLAWED AFTER ALL THESE YEARS
Driving each other crazy (who, us, character defects?)
Baby will you drive my car?
7. AMENDS
Agreement, integrity, and trust
Personal inventory, more about the magic of admitting you are wrong
Would I rather be right or happy? How important is it, really?
8. FINANCES
Our common welfare
Money, property, besiege
9. WHEN PRINCE CHARMING SCREWS UP
We don’t leave no matter what
10. DARK NIGHT OF THE SOUL AND THE FOUR R’s OF RELATIONSHIP
PART III
POSITIVE ACTION: NURTURING THE GARDEN
1. COMMUNICATION
What I heard you say is
On a scale of one to ten
What we hold sacred: Five Languages of Love
2. INTIMACY BUILDERS
Four gateways to intimacy (weekly relationship inventory meeting)
Sharing
Listening
Ten questions game
3. REINFORCING THE POSITIVE
Marriage journal, cherishing the good times
A retreat? No, it’s an advance!
Building and honoring the container
Vitamin G, the gratitude list
Attitude power
4. INSPIRATIONS FROM STEVE’S CLINICAL PRACTICE
Spiritual connection vs. emotional dependency
5. TRADITIONS AND NEW RENDITIONS
6. POWER OF PRAYER AND MEDITATION
Moving it from an individual practice into the relationship
PART IV
KEEPING THE “I” IN MARRIAGE: PRACTICING SELF-CARE (WHEN FOR “ME” = FOR “US”)
1. BACKGROUND
Overview
Spiritual principles of the Twelve Steps
Stages of change
What do you mean by spiritual path?
A clique vs. a community vs. a cult
2. WORKING OUR OWN PROGRAM
It starts with trust
Relying on a higher power, insecurity vs. faith
Sponsorship and passing it on
What I get from helping others
3.HONESTY/AUTHENTICITY
“Fake it till you make it” or “To thine own self be true”?
On being real
Grief vs. self-pity
What support looks like to me
The hero’s journey of recovery
PART V
“PASSING IT ON” AS A COUPLE
1. THEY STOOD AT THE TURNING POINT
Inspiration from other couples
Knowing when to quit
2. COUPLES COMMUNITY
No power, no music
Couples meetings
3. SUMMARY
APPENDIX I
TRADITIONS FOR COUPLES
APPENDIX II
SAMPLE MEETING FORMAT
COUPLES MEETING FORMAT
| Erscheint lt. Verlag | 3.10.2011 |
|---|---|
| Sprache | englisch |
| Themenwelt | Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Familie / Erziehung |
| Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Lebenshilfe / Lebensführung | |
| Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Partnerschaft / Sexualität | |
| Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Psychologie | |
| Schlagworte | Conflict Management • Conflict Resolution • Men's Health • relationships • Substance Abuse Recovery |
| ISBN-10 | 1-936290-77-4 / 1936290774 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-1-936290-77-2 / 9781936290772 |
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