The Purpose of Boys (eBook)

Helping Our Sons Find Meaning, Significance, and Direction in Their Lives

Michael Gurian (Autor)

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2009 | 1. Auflage
272 Seiten
John Wiley & Sons (Verlag)
978-0-470-43053-8 (ISBN)

Infos

The final and conclusive book in the groundbreaking series on
boys and their development

In this climax to his series of landmark books about boys,
Michael Gurian offers a powerful new program to help us give our
sons a core purpose-a program based on building morality,
character, career goals, the ability to form intimate
relationships, selflessness, personal and community responsibility,
and an accelerated process of developmental maturity. Gurian
reveals how important purpose is for the success and happiness of
boys and explains how a boy's core personality, nature, and genetic
predisposition functions to create both strengths and weaknesses in
their journey towards maturity.

* Includes an innovative program for support and interventions
according to the unique needs, weaknesses, and strengths of each
individual young man.

* This book is the follow-up to Gurian's bestselling The Minds
of Boys

* Draws on the latest science and field research on how boys
develop neurologically

* Gurian explores the unique issues boys must confront, and shows
how their strategy for moral development and success in life is
predicated on their nature and genetic predispositions.

Autor

The Author Michael Gurian is a family therapist, educator, consultant, and the New York Times best-selling author of twenty-five books, including The Minds of Boys, Leadership and the Sexes, The Wonder of Girls, Boys and Girls Learn Differently! and The Wonder of Boys. Cofounder of the Gurian Institute, he has spearheaded an international effort to provide families, communities, and corporations with an understanding of brain-based gender issues.

Inhalt

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS IX

INTRODUCTION: WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE, SON? 1

Competing Purposes 3

What Is the Purpose of Boys? 4

We Who Care for Boys and Men 9

PART ONE UNDERSTANDING THE PURPOSE OF BOYS 11

1 THE LOSS OF PURPOSE IN AMERICAN BOYHOOD 13

Why Parents Want to Provide Purpose for Boys 15

Moving Forward with New Vision 22

2 HOW LITTLE BOYS DEVELOP THEIR SENSE OF PURPOSE 25

The Empathy of Boys 26

Brain Differences Between Boys and Girls 30

How Boys and Girls Need Purpose Differently 33

Your Little Boy's Need to Save the World 36

Asking the Deep Questions of Boys 42

3 HOW ADOLESCENT BOYS SEEK THEIR PURPOSE IN LIFE 43

The Young Seeker Among the Primitive and the Civilized 45

How Adolescent Boys and Girls Seek and Develop Purpose Differently 48

What Motivates Different Boys 57

Helping Our Sons Seek Respect in Adolescence 59

Moving Forward with a Map in Hand 62

4.SON, YOU ARE MY HERO 63

The Heroic Son 64

The Story of Joseph 66

The Story Ends, for Now 86

PART TWO HELPING OUR SONS FIND THEIR PURPOSE IN LIFE 89

5 CREATING FAMILIES OF PURPOSE FOR BOYS 91

Creating a Three-Family System: The Parent-Led Team 92

The Development of a Boy's Sense of Destiny in the Family System 96

The Ten Values Tool 97

The Value of Teaching Sexual Purpose 109

Helping Our Sons Find Purposeful Work 115

Helping Boys Find Purpose in Their Media Use 121

A Boy's Search for Freedom 128

6 CREATING COMMUNITIES OF PURPOSE FOR BOYS 130

The Loss of Communities of Purpose for Boys 131

What the Community Can Do for Our Sons 134

Forming Purposeful Communities for African American Boys 141

Changing Helping Professions to Focus on Boys' Needs 151

Enjoying Communities of Purpose with Boys 153

7 CHANGING SCHOOLS TOWARD RELEVANCE AND PURPOSE FOR BOYS 155

How Boys Are Struggling for Purpose in School 156

Fixing the Mismatch Between Schools and the Purpose of Boys 158

Investing in Schools of Purpose 178

8 CREATING AND PROVIDING RITES OF PASSAGE FOR YOUR SON 179

Guiding a Son Through Male Adolescence 180

Developing Your Own Rite-of-Passage Programs 184

The "Here I Am" Rite-of-Passage Program 189

The Power of Purposeful Men 205

EPILOGUE: COMING TOGETHER TO ADVOCATE FOR BOYS 207

NOTES AND RESOURCES 211

BIBLIOGRAPHY 225

APPENDIX: RITE-OF-PASSAGE PROGRAMS 229

THE GURIAN INSTITUTE 235

THE AUTHOR 237

INDEX 239

Rezensionen

Family therapist, author and boy advocate Gurian (The Wonder of Boys; The Minds of Boys) observes that many boys are struggling to find a sense of purpose, and society has not sufficiently stepped up to the plate to help. Gurian paints a grim picture of boys who have lost their footing; many are failing in school; turning to drugs, alcohol or gangs; and engaging in violent behavior. Gurian attributes this disturbing trend to a lack of purpose and urges parents to help their male offspring channel their energies into productive lives. By employing a three-family system, Gurian argues, parents can join together with other adults--leaders, mentors, coaches--and such institutions as schools and churches, to help boys refocus and get back on track. The author offers practical suggestions for helping parents address boys' needs, tackling such issues as sexuality, work and overuse of electronic media. Particularly useful are Gurian's boxed questions for discussion, which will help parents and educators communicate directly with boys themselves. He also includes suggestions to help boys succeed in academic settings, for example, using movement, project-driven curricula and debate. Gurian's team approach to raising a son gives parents the tools and encouragement they need to help boys find direction and fulfillment. (Apr.) (Publishers Weekly, March 2, 2009)

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 30.3.2009
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Familie / Erziehung
• Themenwelt: Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Schwangerschaft / Geburt
• Schlagworte: parenting • Ratgeber • Ratgeber Erziehung • Self-Help
• ISBN-10: 0-470-43053-2 / 0470430532
• ISBN-13: 978-0-470-43053-8 / 9780470430538