Civil Unity
Forbes Books (Verlag)
979-8-88750-489-6 (ISBN)
In a world that is more divided than ever, it will take a radical act to transform our discourse, our lives, and our world. International civility consultant and keynote speaker Shola Richards believes that unifying our world around the power of civility is that radical act, and it’s not for the faint of heart.
Do we want a safer world to live in? Do we want less toxicity in our politics? Do we want a world free of hate and discrimination? Do we want to work in organizations that allow us to do our best work? Do we want our children to learn in schools that are kind and supportive? Do we want to live in a world that prioritizes our mental health and overall wellness? If your answers are “yes,” then we must steel ourselves for the reality that uniting around civility is the only path that will get us there.
This deeply personal—and deeply practical—book will not shy away from addressing the challenging questions, such as: How can civil discourse be maintained during disagreements about topics that are profoundly polarizing, like abortion, gun control, or politics?
How can I be expected to be civil toward someone who has deeply wounded me—the drunk driver who killed my child, the relative who sexually assaulted me, the spouse who left me for my best friend, or the narcissistic parent who abused me?
How can I be civil when confronted with the hatefulness of intolerances such as racism, misogyny, antisemitism, homophobia, or Islamophobia?
How can I have a civil conversation with someone who isn’t tethered to reality and believes in baseless dark web conspiracy theories? It sounds like civility means that we just need to be agreeable, not rock the boat, avoid having opinions or keeping them to ourselves, and refuse to take a firm stand against the policies and people who are trying to harm me and my loved ones. What in the world is positive about any of that foolishness?
These questions—and more—deserve to be answered. To be clear, Civil Unity is not another book about turning the other cheek when faced with harmful or hateful behavior. This book is about providing the practical tactics to disagree more effectively, bridge ideological divisions, actively prioritize our mental health, and fiercely create a more civil world that will sustain over time.
If you are ready to transform our discourse, our lives, and our world, let’s get to work.
SHOLA RICHARDS is the CEO and founder of Go Together Global® and the author of Making Work Work and Go Together, and he is leading a worldwide movement to change the world based on how we treat one another at work, home, and every place in between. Shola’s work has been featured on The TODAY Show, CBS This Morning, Forbes, Black Enterprise, Complete Wellbeing India, and Business Insider Australia, and his tireless efforts to make the world a kinder place have earned him the well-deserved nickname, “Brother Teresa.” As a keynote speaker, Shola has shared his transformative message with Fortune 50 companies, top universities, leading healthcare organizations, Silicon Valley, the motion picture industry, on the TEDx stage, and on three different continents, and in his greatest honor to date, in September 2021, he was invited to testify in front of the House of Representatives on Capitol Hill to share his expert recommendations on how to bring more civility to Congress. Last, but certainly not least, Shola is a father, husband, identical twin, and a self-professed “kindness extremist” who will not rest until bullying and incivility are extinct from the American workplace. He currently lives in Los Angeles, California, with his wife, two daughters, and his dog, Ace.
Introduction
The Real Decision
Transforming Our Discourse, Our Lives, and Our World
Why I’m Writing This Book and the Hard Questions About Civility
Ok, The Real Reason Why I’m Writing This Book
Part 1: The Foundation
Chapter 1: What is Civility, and Why Should We Care?
Living in Fear
The Search for Civility, Acceptance, and Death
The Strength in Kindness
The Active Demonstration of Respect Toward Others
The Ability to Disagree without Disrespect
Sounding The Alarm
Chapter 2: The Abyss of Indifference
Indifference and the Shrug Squad
Reason #1: Overwhelmed with Stress
Reason #2: Someone Else Will Fix It
Reason #3: Easily Influenced Not to Care
Indifference is the Enemy
Chapter 3: Killing the #1 Myth of Civility
Civility In Unlikely Places
The Ineffectiveness of Our Current Disagreements
Entropy and Intentional Consistent Interventions
Disagreeing Strategically
The Power of Civil Discourse
Intentional Consistent Interventions' Overview
Intentional Consistent Intervention #1: Setting the Ground Rules
Part 2: The Work
Chapter 4: The Inner Work
Building Resilience and Reimagining Self-Care
How to Address "Being Overwhelmed by Stress"
Building Your Crew
How to Address “Someone Else Will Fix It”
Controlling the Controllables
How to Address "Being Easily Influenced Not to Care"
Removing Toxic Influences
Emotional Regulation
Preparing For The Outer Work
Intentional Consistent Intervention #2: Tough Love Self-Care
Intentional Consistent Intervention #3: Reinforce or Recruit Your Crew
Intentional Consistent Intervention #4: The Six-and-Six Rule and The Control Questions
Intentional Consistent Intervention #5: Scan Headlines
Intentional Consistent Intervention #6: Break The Cycle
Intentional Consistent Intervention #7: The Seven-Day Detox
Intentional Consistent Intervention #8: Fountain Versus Drain
Intentional Consistent Intervention #9: No Phone Zone
Intentional Consistent Intervention #10: Become Antisocial
Intentional Consistent Intervention #11: Know Your Triggers
Intentional Consistent Intervention #12: Breathe and Speak
Intentional Consistent Intervention #13: Reframe
Chapter 5: Defeating Misinformation and Disinformation
Critical Thinking and Intellectual Humility
The Speed of Deception
Shutting Down Misinformation and Disinformation
Intentional Consistent Intervention #14: Stay Humble
Intentional Consistent Intervention #15: Verify, Verify, Verify!
Intentional Consistent Intervention #16: Read Laterally
Intentional Consistent Intervention #17: Cross-Reference
Chapter 6: Changing How We Think
Why I Never Walk Alone
The Aftermath and the Need to Change How We Think
Recognizing Logical Fallacies
Addressing Logical Fallacies with HIT
Overcoming Implicit Bias
Addressing Implicit Bias with FLOW
Intentional Consistent Intervention #18: HIT Them With Logic
Intentional Consistent Intervention #19: Go With The FLOW
Part 3: The Healing
Chapter 7: We Don’t Need to Change the World to Change the World
Changing a Few Hearts and Minds
Avoiding the Boomerang
The Key To Bridging Ideological Divides And Disagreeing More Effectively
The Bees, The Flies, and The Ants
Intentional Consistent Intervention #20: The Common Cure
Chapter 8: Workplace Toxicity, Intolerance, and Radicalization
Extremely Difficult Situations
The Incivility of the Workplace
The Incivility of Intolerance
The Incivility of Radicalization
Intentional Consistent Intervention #21: Standards Versus Expectations
Intentional Consistent Intervention #22: Impact Versus Intent
Intentional Consistent Intervention #23: What Do You Mean By That?
Intentional Consistent Intervention #24: Be an Upstander
Intentional Consistent Intervention #25: Radical Civility
Chapter 9: When Civility Feels Impossible
Forgiveness: Debunking Myths and Difficult Questions
Is It Possible to Forgive and Forget?
Is It Possible to Forgive Someone Who Isn’t Sorry For What They Did?
What If I Can’t Forgive Myself For What Happened?
Is Anything Unforgiveable?
Intentional Consistent Intervention #26: Forgive or Not
Conclusion
The Unlikely Encounter
Give Life or Drain It
Healing What Is Broken
Acknowledgments
About the Author
| Erscheinungsdatum | 27.08.2024 |
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| Sprache | englisch |
| Maße | 152 x 229 mm |
| Themenwelt | Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Beruf / Finanzen / Recht / Wirtschaft ► Bewerbung / Karriere |
| Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Psychologie | |
| Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie ► Sozialpsychologie | |
| ISBN-13 | 979-8-88750-489-6 / 9798887504896 |
| Zustand | Neuware |
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